Saturday, December 31, 2005

Goodbye 2005/Hello 2006

door

You say yes
I say no
You say stop
And I say go go go
Oh no you say goodbye
And I say hello
Hello hello
I don't know why
You say goodbye
I say hello


Instead of asking you if the glass is half full or half empty I'm going to ask if you are a hello or a goodbye. Is someone just preparing to enter that door up there or have they just left? Or should I have posted a picture of a revolving door so you can do both at the same time?

I have to say I hate goodbyes. I hate for good times to end. I hate to part from people I enjoy or love. I think I had too many unpleasant goodbyes as a kid. There were too many unexpected and permanent goodbyes that didn't make sense. I'm grown-up enough to know goodbyes are a part of life, and I can deal with it. I still don't like them but I try to let them be natural and pleasant at least. Let's make it as painless as possible.

An abrubt or harsh goodbye is really hard to take. I try to avoid those at all cost. I am compelled to tell the people closest to me 'I love you' whenever they have to leave because God-forbid the worst happens and they don't come back. I want those 3 words to be the last ones they heard from me.

For me, it seems like 2005 had more than its fair share of both hellos and goodbyes. I had a cherished friend die, another withdrew due to substance abuse, and a final one simply told me 'It's been real. I don't wanna do this anymore. Bye.' That last one left me reeling. I never saw it coming. I don't understand it and since this person slammed and locked the door I have to sort of muddle through figuring it out on my own. The other two I saw coming and I at least had time to prepare myself. At the close of 2005, I'd like to bid adieu to the sadness of those goodbyes.

2005 had some really great hellos to it too. Some were first time introductions. Others were a chance to move a little deeper into previous acquaintances. I've been so blessed and encouraged, entertained and delighted by some of these hellos. Since I started blogging this year, a lot of the hellos have been right here. It never ceases to amaze me the way people open a door into their lives here in the blogpshere. I learn so much from so many of you. I love the way some of you make me laugh. I cry with some of you. I enjoy all those folks over on my blogroll as well as others I haven't added yet.

As we say hello to 2006 I want to say thanks to everyone over on the sidebar. Thanks for the open door. Tell me, what are you saying goodbye to in 2005? What are you saying hello to in 2006? I also want to invite anyone who lurks around but has never said hello to take this chance. I'd like to greet you if you come around from time to time. So just give me a little 'Howdy' in the comments and let me say 'Hello.'

21 comments:

Gary said...

I don't mind for good times to end, because I'm an optimist and always feel like more good times are coming.

Fred said...

Great post, Lime.

Nothing major to usher out for 2005, and for 2006 I just want to make sure The Missus is happy and the kids stay on the right path.

Happy New Year.

Melody said...

Hello 2006. I've decided to face the new year with no expectations...that way there will be no disappointments. My 2005 was just about even with hello's and good-byes...I guess that's the way it should be.

Chickadee said...

I'm glad I started blogging this year. I have met a lot of interesting and fun people, such as yourself. I'm glad I have met you. I look forward to reading your posts.

Will greet the new year tomorrow by going to the park by the river and looking for eagles. It's a yearly tradition.

logo said...

Ah, good post Ms. Lime.
2006 promises some enormous changes around here.
I don't know exactly what we will be saying hello to, but it is easier to greet it open minded and open hearted with all of you in my life.
Have a good New Year, Michelle, hugs and kisses to you!

barefoot_mistress said...

...when one door is closed, another is open....

bsoholic said...

Great now I have the beatles stuck in my head - thanks a lot! :P

Great post though. My 2005 had way more hellos than goodbyes. Mainly thanks to the blogosphere as you mentioned. So I say bring on the new year, who knows how many more hellos there are to be had!

Bridget Jones said...

I agree with bs, great post!! THat door? Has someone sitting on the throne behind it! My 2005 had almost equal numbers of hellos and goodbyes, slightly more of the latter due to deaths. This was my first year blogging as well and I love yours.

Sorry that you had the goodbyes that you did, have had similar years. What I can promise is that as life unwinds, the load gets lighter. Really.

(((hugs))) Bridg p.s. my hair's completely white (re your Dec. 29 post) but the color on it is rented ;)

Breazy said...

Happy New Years Lime ! Thank you also for being open and honest here on your blog . I love to read what you write because you have a special way with words. More times than not , you have me laughing by the third sentence . I hope the new year brings all you want and more! HUGS

lime said...

gary, so glad you introduced yourself, glad to meet you.

fred, thanks. sounds like very good plans to me.

mel, good point

chick, i'm glad to have met youtoo and so glad i can finally post at your place. love the idea of eagle watching for the new year!

logo, whatever 2006 brings i hope for happiness and i am glad to reciprocate the support you have given.

bare, yep and sometimes ya gotta go thru the window too

bs, sorry about the beatles, hehehe. so glad you've been one of the hellos this year. you keep me laughing all the time.

bridget, thanks so much for the kind words. i am enjoying reading you too. cracked me up onthe rented color. i love it!

breazy, thanks so much. i appreciate your openess too. i've really enjoyed getting to know you.

James Goodman said...

Hello, 2006. May it be better to some and at least as good to others.

Happy New Years

Jodes said...

how about a hiya!!! 2005 was good and bad. 2006 will be all good. Hey I sent your Christmas card yesterday!!!! Look for it towards the end of the week.

lime said...

goody, well said.

jodes. hiya sweetie! i can't wait!

snavy said...

Hello Limeykins!!

I have got to tell you that has indeed been quite a year. Tomorrow - Jan. 3rd is my 1 year since I downloaded Yahoo Messenger (was playing in my profile and saw date). I have met the most wonderful people in the last year. You were the first girl I met in triv and I cannot tell you how happy I am that we became such good friends. Thank you for being there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen to my ranting and a source of such joy and so many laughs. I will always be here for you!!! I love you sweetie!! Here's to 2006!!

btw - that is one of my favorite songs.

HUGS!!!!!

lime said...

snav! what a year huh? so glad to have met you too, hon. youdid corrupt me with this whoel blogging thing

Sheri said...

I think I'm a Hello type person although my hubby and I say Goodbye each time like it's the last. I have to do that - I can't help myself.

I'm glad I found your little corner of the Blogosphere..... I'm a happier Limer becuase of it!

lecram sinun said...

Your "hello" has been a wonderful adsdition to my life! :)

Seamus said...

I feel as though I've made so many new friends this year in the 'sphere - friends that aren't about work or family. In that respect '05 has been a great year for "hellos" - and thanks to Os for the forum to meet so many new faces. I'm glad to get to know you Michelle - hello! :)

lime said...

sheri, lecram, and seamus......i am delighted for the chance to know each of you too. were it not for the 'sphere i'd have never had the chance.

The Zombieslayer said...

In this case, it was a hello. Looking forward to 2006. It's been an okay year so far.

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