Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Is it Just Me?

Yesterday evening Mr. Lime came home and popped a DVD into the machine to watch while he graded papers. He got 5 minutes into the movie 'Parenthood' and turned it off in disgust after Steve Martin caressed his wife's breast through clothing and in the next scene a teenage girl's boyfriend popped out from under her bed wearing only his undies. He exclaimed, 'What is this crap?' He then proceeded to turn the channel to watch CSI reruns over the dinner hour. I asked him how a man touching his wife's fully clothed breast in the context of a happy marriage, and a teenage boy in underwear was more offensive than the rotting corpses and some of the violent perversions shown in CSI. Mr. Lime looked at me like I had three heads.

So, dear readers, what sorts of 'entertainment' would you turn off in disgust? And no, I am not just looking for you to take my side so I can win an argument. It's just food for thought.

31 comments:

James Goodman-Horror Writer said...

Anything that uses the suffereing of children to make it more dramatic. That's why I quit watching ER...

Jim said...

Sit-coms aimed at children, to which I am constantly subjected, if I want to be in the den with my little angels . . . Hannah Montana, The Suite Life of Zach & Cody, That's So Raven.

And pretty much any reality show.

XO

S said...

You still win. Bring on the sexy stuff.

Well we have only three channels, one is PBS, the other two suck.
I cannot watch death, killing, blood, gore, violence, murder, gross icky things like someone getting their hand chopped off in an African movie ....
I cannot watch surgery or real life car accident stuff, or even a kid falling off his bicycle and then showing the wound.
I cannot watch films like that one where Jodi Foster loses her kid on a plane...why would any parent put themselves through that torture?
Or, that one where Will Smith is homeless and has a child ....no no I will never watch it, the previews made me cry.
I cant watch stuff where animals get hurt unless its totally faked out and its light, for example...just a cowboy taking a spill offa horse, and they put that disclaimer at the end that no animals were harmed bla bla...

I cannot watch Lawrence Welk. I hate pastel chiffon dresses.

:P That was most fun, tyvm.

Charles said...

Although I am an avid fan of horror movies (one's depicting obviously fake situations), I think that some of the situations as Mr Lime turned off are inappropriate to show our children. Once they are grown, it can be a different matter. I too hate the true to life abuse that is shown on shows like Cops (I really get ticked off when I see some of the things they do), movies based on actually events, etc. Imagination and acting doesn't hurt, but real abuse is a different matter.
Example: I watched an episode of Cops, and they entered a little Asian man's home (entered his closed door porch, which the door inside was open) which struck me as an illegal move, then when he comes to the porch eating his noodles, they accuse him of a crime a couple of minutes before. The next thing you know the guy is on the ground being tasered. He didn't fight with them, he was in his own home eating, but they deemed it necessary to taser a guy so much smaller than either of them. It makes me sick to watch that shi_.

lime said...

james the writer, i COMPLETELY agree. 100% children in peril is not entertainment. it's sickening

jim, *shudders* i feel my IQ slip every time i am subjected to the inanity. the only redeeming virtue is that they are reasonably wholesome.

susie, LMAO @ lawrence welk...anna one-ah, anna two-ah...

charles, there was absolutely nothing gratuitous at all about the scenes in 'parenthood.' i agree about the show 'cops' and showing real abuse. senseless and coarsening.

MONA said...

I guess it is the Reality in Parenthood that makes it more disturbing than imagination in the latter. But surely, those two scenes you described should not be a bone of contention.

Unless one is feeling guilty in that respect...

cindra said...

Anything with animals or children suffering at the hands of adults.

Ann Coulter

Dog the Bounty Hunter

Anything with Mel Gibson in it

Most all sitcoms

Commercials

lecram said...

Hmmm... I swear I left a comment earlier... blogger must hat me for defecting. :)

The comment was...
I think the situation is reflected in the MPAA rating system. Movies with high body counts can still get a PG13 but the moment there is sex or nudity... boom, it gets an R. One has to wonder about the cultural aesthetic sometimes.

Gawpo said...

I am going to take a bold stand here and just come right out with my thoughts on the matter:

I think marijuana should be legalized.

snowelf said...

I can watch very little reality drama, and I can't stand to watch any shows about celebrity gossip. Luckily my best friend can watch them, so if I need any celebrity gossip news, I just ask her. :)

--snow

MyUtopia said...

I love that movie and always thought that scene was sweet.

S said...

Are you still MIA in Yahoo cuz I cant email u or PM so will you email me? :P

Margee-Martha-Marsha Pick-One said...

OH I am SO with YOU on this one! I can't stomach gruesome. I watched only part of a CSI once and changed it... Started watching Heroes, got gorey, changed it... I liked Parenthood because I like Steve Martin... I'm a romantic comedy gal all the way!

Margee-Martha-Marsha Pick-One said...

Best part of Parenthood... The kid with the bucket on his head running into the wall repeatedly!

Just had to add that.

Jeni said...

I absolutely loathe, abhor and despise any and all of the Reality Shows -including American Idol and the likes of that! I tend to walk out of the room when my sil gets his hands on the remote cause I know the first thing on his list is some channel on cable all about car repairs or some thing like that which bores the living daylights out of me.

lime said...

mona, guilt...*snicker...nuff said

cindra, giggling at yoru list even though i completely understand. fabulous


lecram, several people have told me lately comments have been eaten and yes i agree there is a real weird disparity in the ratings system

gawpo, lol, smoke if ya got em

snowelf, the celebrity gossip crap makes me want to scream

myutopia, i quite agree

margee, there was so much in the movie that was spot on.

jeni, i can enjoy the shows where there is a competition based on an actual performing talent but the other reality shows, nope, i'll pass.

witnessing am i said...

I really don't know. Anything that is done for the sake of shock, to trying to get you to say "oh my" and not done for the sake of being true to the moment or the subject matter.

I have not seen many things that have shocked me (thank goodness) but oh man, reality shows make me sick -- the extend, dramatic pauses, the fatty editing, the unreal reaction shots. Definately NOT a husband caressing his wife through her clothes, for goodness sake.

M said...

*OMG* I love the movie Parenthood. It is absolutely one of my favorite movies.

Have you seen it all the way through? There is a dildo scene in the movie (divorced mom with her family someone finds it and embarrassment ensues..)Good thing Mr Lime didn't see that scene.

I think Parenthood is a wonderful movie about family. And yeah, sexuality is a part of life...so I would much rather live in a world like the movie parenthood rather than CSI...

Those crimes shows can warp your mind. I have watched CSI, NCIS, Criminal Minds, Numbers...all cool shows but after awhile the death and gore and serial killer crap gets depressing.


So give me a movie or tv show about people living their ordinary lives being in love, being a parent, being a single person...whatever *without* the murder thank you very much.

M said...

PS...I think Parenthood would bore most kids...but I don't see anything wrong with kids of a certain age seeing the movie.

I am not sure which age that would be...but again there is a dildo in the movie briefly. So, it depends on the communication between you and your kids. Frankly, I think movies can open up good conversations with preteens about issues that kids may have questions about.

Sheri said...

Anything depcting a child or aniaml in pain or suffering... I can't stomach it. That goes for books too. Sometimes, I have to turn Animal Planet off because it makes me start bawling.

I love the movie Parenthood. It ranks as one of my all time favorites. It covers everything.... dysfuntional families, teen sex, drugs, gambling, race issues, divorce etc.... Our family, including young teens, have had some pretty lively discussions in regards to this movie. It opens alot of doors for questions.

SignGurl said...

Parenthood is an awesome movie as has been said here previously. I'm LOL at the thought of Mr. Lime watching the dildo scene.

You are one of the stars of my HNT. Hope you enjoy it.

lime said...

witnessing, i agree on all points you've covered. 'unreality' shows included.

m, yes, i saw the movie all the way through without mr. lime one evening and i loved it. thought it was touching and funny...including the dildo scene. i've discussed condoms and their usage at the dinner table with my kids, so i'd have no problem with them seeing this movie.

sheri, my thoughts exactly, i thought if we'd been able to all watch it together it might have stimulated some really good discussion

signgurl, well mr. lime saw a dishwasher full of dildos on CSI and seemed nto too traumatized. i guess in this movie he'd have gone into shock though. how about the bit where the wife gives him head inthe car too. bwahahaha. can't wait to see the HNT

katie said...

anything with Paris Hilton, Britney Spears without underwear AND traumatizing her children, oh, and Nancy Grace- she bugs the crap outtah me.

Got your blog link from Sign Gurl-just checkin' you out! :)

Cosima said...

I find it quite interesting how different tv is from one culture to the next. It's interesting because in a single evening of watching another culture's tv program, you learn so much about the assumptions and "ideals" of that country, and your own as well, just from noticing the differences.

Kittie Kate said...

Curb Your Enthusiasm! I hate that show!

I hate CSI too. I don't like those crime shows.

I'll turn the tv off for sex. No, not sex on tv, but to get sex. ;)

I don't understand why he's against sex on tv. It's not porn. It's not even erotic.

Theresa said...

Sex I can handle, no problem, but anything with gratuitous violence turns me off. I have been known to watch Heros, which is pretty disgusting, but I have to find out what happens...shh, don't tell anyone. CSI is banned at my house, I would much rather watch my collection of Friends for the hundreth time.

barman said...

You know it is weird, I can watch almost anything and be OK with it. I think I treat movies a lot like real life. Public displays of affection can turn me off. Private is fine. I think the boyfriend in only undies possibly hit to close to home for Mr Lime.

For me I stay away from the Friday the 13th, Halloween, etc. type of movies. Those that seem to be devil oriented too I also will switch off. Reality TV and I do not see eye to eye. Cops, it is a race as to how fast I can switch the channel on that show. If you are harming kids or animals in some way and it seems real than I am out of there. I am sure their are other things too but I can not think of it right off. Basically if I would not like it in real life, I will not like it in a movie.

Oh I saw a movie last night where the US was torturing a person they suspected was aiding a terrorist. They forcibly sent the person to another country and the dirty deed was done there. Now if it were not for the fact that I think this is all to real I would have considered leaving that movie. The torture was something I did not need to see but for me it all was so eye opening.

Jericho said...

As I look at the table, there's a variety of "food" from which to choose....

lime said...

katie, you'll get an emphatic 'amen, sistah!' from me!

cosima, that's a really excellent point, thanks for sharing that insight.:)

kittie kate, oh yeah1 i'd turn off the TV for the promise of some mind altering sex too!

theresa, i'll bring the popcorn for the 'friends' marathon

barman, distate for somethign in real life seems a reasonable measuring stick for what we call entertainment

jericho, quite. let us sup on the food that nourishes and sates. so very nice to see you again.

Cooper said...

There is very little that would make me turn ON the TV in the first place.

Give me a decent set and a DVD player and I'm fine. Broadcast TV in all forms (cable, dish, whatever) is just crap.

Parenthood, BTW, is a great flick. Keanu Reeves has the best line "you have to take a test to get a driver's license but they let any butt-reaming asshole be a father"

Real Live Lesbian said...

Frankly, I think there's way too little of the married/clothed/boob squeezing going on. That's the kind of stuff that children should see. That's it's okay to have fun and be sexual in a marriage.