Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Observations

1. MIL is looking for transportation to and from a couple doctor's appointments after I return home. I asked why my SIL who lives 40 minutes away couldn't take her. She answered, "Well, she has to find someone to watch her daughter after school, and drive all the way up here, and then into town, and then.....you know, it all sounds pretty lame compared to coming from Pennsylvania."


2. It's a gratifying thing to have someone thank you for cooking their dinner and then tell you it tastes great. Of course, she said it was great compared to the swill she got in the nursing home but it's still a compliment, right? I'll take that.


3. Good neighbors are worth their weight in gold and my MIL has some of the best. She's a lucky lady.

28 comments:

Blither said...

Huh.

Maybe a good neighbor will be worth a lil more than a sister in law :)

:)

Hugs Bella!

furiousBall said...

oh that's painful to hear, the offspring using their own offspring as an excuse not to care for their own parent. very, very sad. you are good people amiga. this world needs more people like you and her neighbors

Phain said...

sometimes its a priority we place on our family (or friends) that dictates how often we see them - not necessarily the distance between - and i say this from experience. when my ex and i lived in louisiana, we saw his dad more often than we ever did when we lived in the same town as them! sad but true...

RennyBA said...

Said to hear and I'm sorry you have to hear this. I though blood was thicker than water, but good neighbours might covers well too.

Wishing you a great hump day :-)

M said...

hm. your cooking is "better than the swill you get in a nursing home". you should write a House of Lime cookbook with that as the sub-title!
you could be on the Rachel Ray show (-;

Jeni said...

I loved that suggestion about your doing a House of Lime cookbook -with a subtitle maybe of "better than the swill...." I'm betting you could come up with plenty of really good recipes to put in there too. If you figure the "better than..." idea is not a good one, seriously - think about the cookbook idea itself though -or make it a "virtual cooking" with Internet friends and take recipes from blogger buddies (their favorites or best or whatever) to include with your own. With you wit plus the good recipes aspect, I betcha you could come up with a best seller. Then we could all watch you plug your new cookbook on Oprah too.

S said...

This experience will be good for all the Limes.

barman said...

The blogger recipe thing is a winner. Look here for someone that did just that. Anyway you know she just will never give you a compliment. It is something buried deep inside her.

You know I had sort of the same thing happen when my Mom was in the hospital. I took time off of work so I could help out. It is a little tougher being 100 miles away to just pop in and help out. But my brother who is 30 minutes or closer away was complaining about having to get involved. What ever. I am not going to let that prevent me from doing the right thing.

Good neighbors are a wonderful thing. Mine just keeps to herself but we get along well that way. I had a neighbor I loved but she slipped away. Other than that I have no idea who lives near me. Yep, people that bring over Italian dinner sounds like a keeper to me for sure.

Casdok said...

Good to hear your MIL has good neighbours. And also good to hear you can cook better than a nursing home!!

Mona said...

Enjoy your position of power!

I think Susie is right. It is good for all.

SignGurl said...

You are such a good person. You know I ♥ U!

KFarmer said...

It was an unspoken rule growing up after meals that everyone said "thank you Mom for dinner, it sure was good" (and it always was.)

James Goodman-Horror Writer said...

Egads!!! It sounds like MIL is better off with her neighbors than with her own daughter. Tragic...

Lizard Princess said...

I agree whole heartedly with #2!
I cook at the group home I work at and it's very satisfying to get compliments from them (DD adults). Most of the people who cook there are pretty young and inexperienced in the kitchen, so I try to give them good home cooking when I work. It's a lot of fun!

gab said...

My sister who lives 10 mins from my dad couldnt take care of him after his heart attack. SO I came all the way from South Dakota(only 350 miles but hey ya know)to care for our dad. After I moved totally in with him cared for him for 6 months he kicks me out and demanded my sister come care for him. lol she got stuck anyways! only thing is because she lives so close she didnt have to move in with him like we did. Thank god we didnt sell our house here and we moved back into it and are staying close just incase my sister needs us. I have the police watching our house in SD.

Suldog said...

Oh, I absolutely love her quote concerning the SIL. Isn't it marvelous when someone switches to your train of thought right in the middle of speaking?

Breazy said...

shame shame on the SIL! One day she will be in the position that your MIL is in now and I wonder what she will think when her children find excuses not to help them out?

Hope your back is doing well and I hope that you are having a good time and I pray for a safe return home!
HUGS!

coopernicus said...

And why can't SIL just bring the kid along? Might brighten up MIL's day to see grandkids...

Glad things are going well.

Miss your face around the place.

San said...

Lime, it sounds like things are going pretty well after all. Your mom-in-law no doubt does appreciate the effort you've gone to. You're a good one!

Moosekahl said...

Glad to hear things are going okay and your head is still above water. How's the back doing?

I've been thinking about you a lot. Take care!

Dorky Dad said...

Hey, your food is fantastic compared to the swill I choke down at the nursing home. Yup. That's a cooking compliment if I've ever heard one. Especially since I usually only hear retching whenever I cook.

Theresa said...

There's always someone like that in every family. At least your MIL has good neighbors. So, when's that "Better than Swill" cookbook coming out?

Beach Bum said...

Relatives, including in-laws, can be a pain. I try my best to avoid getting between the in-family spats amongst my wife's family.

Pauline said...

better than 'the swill she got in the nursing home'...that's what is known as a back handed compliment but it's a compliment, so grab it and run!
Glad to see MiL is doing OK.

Seamus said...

I'm really glad to hear that MIL is getting around.

Wassup with SIL??? PFFFFTTT!

tsduff said...

Hope you are having a good time in spite of the large displacement (all the way from PA) and missing of family. Your heart is big and warm ;)

The Zombieslayer said...

There is nothing in the world like having good neighbors. I hope MIL will be ok.

I worked as a waiter in a nursing home. One of the reasons why the food is so bad is because no matter what, the residents will complain. It's either too spicy or too bland. The cook I worked for was an excellent cook, so it wasn't his cooking.

Jocelyn said...

Ah, that's a MIL--having the sense to acknowledge how lame that sounded compared to traveling the distance you had.

I have a new favorite tepid compliment, "Well, it's better than the swill they give us in the nursing home."