Thank you for the comments of support and encouragement over the weekend. I truly appreciate it.
I am still struggling with the nastiness that occurred last week. I have moved past the initial shock and pain and right now I am trying to contain the simmering anger. A simple, sincere, unqualified apology would be the equivalent of taking the lid off the pot and turning down the heat. Certain parties are hoping I will follow long established procedure by smiling, making nice, and pretending nothing happened. Ain't. Gonna. Happen. I am not going to pour gasoline on the fire (even though in some ways it would be reeeeeaally gratifying to do so) but there will be no resolution until I am offered an apology. Abuse, even if it is only verbal, is not something I will sweep under the rug.
"I was angry and I lashed out." That's an excuse, not an apology.
"I treated you terribly. It was wrong to do so. I am sorry." That's an apology.
After an apology perhaps we can begin to rebuild something.