Yesterday I went out to New Jersey to visit my dear friend and Sweet Pea. My friend and I spoke over the weekend and both of us were feeling a bit overwhelmed by things at our respective homes. We both said times like this we really wished the other still lived just a few blocks away. She's seeing her maternity leave time dwindle away which makes her unhappy about having to leave Sweet Pea. She also had some rather deluded ideas about all the things she'd accomplish at home during her time off work and really wants to get one or two things done. That's not me being harsh. She said that herself.
She told me she has been surprised by how her priorities have shifted so seismically since becoming a mother. My friend, the driven career woman/fashionista, who excels at multitasking and looking fabulous in the process, is shocked to find she doesn't mind sitting on the couch cuddling a fussy baby all day. Yesterday when we went out to lunch she barely thought twice about going out without a bit of make-up and wearing orange crocs with a faded green sweatshirt. I welcomed her to the dark side with an approving cackle.
She has not completely abandoned who she is though nor would I want her to. I went to her place because after many weeks she desperately wanted to accomplish just cleaning out her kitchen closet and get things better organized. Since Sweet Pea has been something of a fuss pot it's been hard to put her down long enough to get through such a task. My friend asked jokingly, "You want to come hold a baby for the day so I can clean out my closet?" Let's see, I get to cuddle Sweet Pea, see my best friend, give back to her a little bit of what she gave me so many times when my kids were small, and not have to listen to surly teenagers, all after last week and the weekend, which were fairly sucktastic. Yeah, sign me up for some of that.
As much as I was getting a chuckle out of what motherhood has done to her she seemed to find my auntie behavior fairly amusing as well. What can I say? Sweet Pea had lots of important news to fill me in on from the last 6 weeks and I had some important auntie things to tell her. We understood each other perfectly. At the end of the day my pal had gotten rid of a bunch of things she didn't need and had a clean, well ordered kitchen and closet. I got a day's fill of baby cuddles and the joy of being with my friend. It was a win/win. It was a pause that refreshed.